A very close friend of mine sent a message last week really upset with someone who spoke badly of me, someone who doesn’t even know me. My words to her that if I had to worry about what people think or say, I might as well stay at home and sit in a dark corner chewing my wrists.
My whole life was one of trying to conform to other’s beliefs or trying to please others. I was either too loud, too bright, too fat, too thin, too much personality, too shy, and the list goes on.
I am at the most peaceful, free space in my world where other people’s opinions just do not interfere with my state of being. I will ALWAYS be too much of something for someone, so I do what feels right for me. I don’t have the desire to fit in or be accepted by others, I accept and love myself enough and guide others to do the same.
I once had someone say to me on a retreat that if I didn’t let a swear word out here or there, they wouldn’t have trusted me. I then had another say that I should not swear. So, upfront I let people know that every now and then a swear word will pass my lips, this is how it is. The same went with making jokes. It offends some, others love it. At the end of the day, those who want to be in my vibration, will. Those who don’t will find someone they are comfortable with.
The point is, I tore myself apart for many years trying to please everyone except the person that matters most, me!
I truly hope hope this message inspires you to be authentically YOU! Do what feels right for you! You are the one who has to live with yourself. You are the one who puts your head on your pillow at night and has deal with yourself. Too loud? Tell them to put earplugs in. Too bright? Tell them to wear sunglasses. As long as you don’t intentionally harm anyone, be you to the max!!!
In Love always,
Our Heart Centre 💟