How To Hold In Love

Everyone is always SO quick to judge and give their opinions…

Don’t go back to him…

Don’t go back to her…

Don’t turn to alcohol…

Don’t turn to drugs…

Don’t turn to xyz…

I will never, ever forget being SO close to wanting to throw in the towel and turn back to all of the above, and then some. The world was crashing down on me. The people I loved and held closest to my heart turned out to not be who I thought they were. I worked with them too, which made it SO difficult every single day… I went into a full blown dark night of the soul.

Spending time with my younger sister and her incredible husband during this time gave me life. They didn’t quite know it at the time, but they literally saved me. Being around genuine love and care soothed my soul and gave me hope.

I saw too what a husband and wife relationship is supposed to look like. What a marriage/relationship should be, and I realized then just how deep the law of attraction really runs. I was attracting broken, because that is what I knew. I had no examples of what a healthy relationship looked like, therefore, I attracted that which I had seen.

Spending this incredible quality time with them, I started to note what it is that I would like in a man, a relationship and a marriage, thanks to the examples right before my eyes. Soon after, I attracted my incredible husband into my life, and he is ALL I wrote down and then some!! And the night I met my Paul, I said to him that I’m not interested in getting to know him unless he understands that the world needs examples of love in a healthy, loving, kind relationship. (Yes, the very same night I met him 😀) 

My message is this…

Don’t judge people where they are… Hold them, love them, treasure them, encourage them… For then, into the most beautiful flowers they will blossom!!

Stop giving your opinions on where they are, and where you think they should be and what they should be doing… You don’t know!! You have not walked in their shoes!! If you truly love them and want to help, be still and just love them!!

A woman told me a beautiful story about a young child who filled his glass to the brim with coldrink, the kind that will stain if it spills. Everyone was looking at this child thinking that carrying it so full, and all the way to the outside area, this child was bound to mess or to fall and spill it everywhere. The father jumped up, and much to everyone’s surprise, stood behind his son and said “You can do it my boy”… He didn’t take the glass away. He didn’t sip out of it before his son walked with it. He ONLY encouraged him and walked behind him reminding him that he can do it. And yes, the child made it outside with not one drop spilled. This dad is my hero!!!

Let’s encourage each other! Let’s love each other! Let’s be the examples to this world that it so desperately needs!!

In love always,

Angy-Lee

Our Heart Centre 💟