Worrying about what others think of you..

So many people have deep fears about what others think of them. This is a deep, core issue which most of us develop as children to fit in. I understand this issue very well. All I ever wanted was to fit in. Fit in at school, fit in with family, fit in at church, fit in at work, fit in with friends. 

Societies continue to tell you you’re not good enough with their advertising. If you have this body, you will fit in. If you wear these clothes, you will fit in. If you use these creams, you will not age and fit in. If you get botox, colour your hair, tan your skin, etc, then you will be accepted and fit in. All these unreachable goals and standards are set. Wow, the pressure is real!!

I realized years ago that it didn’t matter what I did or said, I was never going to please everyone. I was ‘doomed’ to fail if I tried to make everyone like me. So, being true to me and me only, I found more and more joy from within and fit into myself. 🥰

If there are ten people standing in front of me, because of those ten people’s past and current realities, they will ALL view me differently according to their worlds. One may have had a mother with dark hair and blue eyes and I remind them of her, and according to their relationship, they will either love or reject me. Another’s husband may have had an affair with someone who looks like me, they will then automatically reject me. Another may have a sister who dresses or behaves like me and they love her, so they automatically love me. And so on… 

Do you see how who and what you are has nothing to do with how people perceive you? It truly has EVERYTHING to do with themselves. You just cannot take anything personally!! So in the end, what you think of me has nothing to do with me. 😍 

And now, watch your own perceptions of the people around you. It really is fascinating once you start to become cognizant of it. Take note of how you reject or accept people according to their behaviors, looks and mannerisms, and notice what inside of you is either accepting or rejecting them, and call that part back home in love. 

~ Our Heart Centre ~