Start choosing connection rather than attention

In my younger years, insecurity stood right at the front line of my life.

I did not feel worthy. I did not feel good enough. Because of that, any attention felt like validation. It did not matter where it came from. It did not matter whether I was truly interested, attracted, or aligned. If someone offered attention, I welcomed it, because it temporarily filled a space inside me that felt empty.

What I did not realise at the time was that this behaviour was not conscious, it lived in my subconscious. It was formed through a traumatic developmental childhood where my sense of worth, safety, and belonging had been fractured early on. Seeking attention became a coping mechanism, a way to feel seen, chosen, and momentarily enough.

Looking back now, I can see how deeply insecurity shapes our choices when it is rooted in unhealed trauma. When we do not know our worth, we unconsciously seek it outside of ourselves. We accept crumbs of attention and mistake them for love. We allow energy into our space that is not truly meant for us, not because we are careless, but because a wounded part of us is still searching for safety and validation.

This is not something to judge or shame, it is something to understand with compassion. Insecurity is often the voice of a younger self who learned to survive by adapting. As we heal and become more aware, these patterns begin to loosen their grip. We start choosing connection rather than attention. Alignment rather than approval.

True confidence does not come from being wanted by many. It comes from knowing your own worth, honouring yourself, and understanding the roots of your patterns with kindness. When you begin to truly see yourself, you no longer invite energy into your life that does not reflect your value.

This reflection is shared with honesty, love, and deep compassion for the journey we all walk.

~ Angy-Lee ~
Our Heart Centre 💚🌱